From:
Craig and Jan HillLittleton, CO
How did I get here? Married five years and still experiencing very little joy, fulfillment or pleasure in marriage. This was not what I had signed up for when we got married.
I had married with the hope and dream that Jan and I would quickly adjust to married life, and would spend our years experiencing a joy-filled, fulfilling relationship as we pursued God’s plan for us together. Instead, marriage had become more like an endurance contest.
I had been blindly going down the road of married life believing that because Jan and I both loved the Lord, loved each other, and met in a Christian missions organization, that marriage would be easy, joy-filled and fulfilling. Now after 5 years, I had come to the realization that this simply was not true.
Apparently I had missed something. I wanted to blame Jan for falsely accusing me of not loving her, when I was doing everything I could to try to love her. However, I knew that there must be something more I was missing.
I prayed, read books on marriage, asked others for help, but nothing seemed to restore the feeling of romance, joy and fulfillment that we both desired in our marriage.
As I sought the Lord, I determined that perhaps my assignment from the Lord for all of my life was just to learn to love one person, my wife.
I resigned myself to do so. I felt very noble in attempting to love Jan, but even this resolve didn’t change the frequent conflict and feeling of frustration in our marriage.
After seven years of marriage, in 1984, as I continued to study the Bible and press into relationship with God, I finally received a major breakthrough revelation from the Lord that changed everything in our marriage.